In the last 7 days I've been confronted with the truth that 2 men that I respect have resigned as pastors of the churches they helped plant because of secret sin.
One is a closest enough friend that he called me so he could share the reality with me. What I'm not going to do is rehash the particulars of either of their situations, honestly I don't care and you should not either.
What we do need to learn from are the realities of their situations because there are some principles that are easy for us to ignore or take for granted.
Here they are:
- As pastors we need accountability. Not just the is our church growing are people getting saved are we teaching the Word accountability. We need personal, moral, and ethical accountability. We need best friends, other pastors who we can let our guard down around and say my stuff stinks. Someone who can see through our hiding and call us out.
- As pastors we need to dig up those deep dark places that we try to hide and ignore. We need to pull up those habits and desires that we try to hide and DEAL with them. We cant hide them because the devil will eventually figure out how to tempt you with them.
- We can't ever forget that the only person to 'survive' being tempted was Jesus. We can't think we are above or better than falling to temptation.
- We must continually teach the churches God has allowed us to lead that the vision of the church is GOD's not ours. We cannot let ego get the better of us. Remember who we serve and that we are servants. As a servant ego is not an admired quality. Servants make their master look good.
- We each need to realize that we are 1 stupid decision from failure. That's right 1 stupid decision. You dont need to steal $1 million or have a year long affair. Its the first dollar stolen or the first fleeting thought that gets us in trouble.
- We can NEVER EVER put ministry before our wives and children. Are you spending more time doing church than with your wife? Does your wife get your seconds and your kids get yesterday's leftovers of your time. God First, WIFE next, then kids then Church.
Biblicaly we are to restore our brothers after they sin. We can't judge. As my Bishop says...'we dont have a heaven or hell to put them in.' So there is no judgement from me for
Gary Lamb or my other pastor friend. Honestly, we need to pray for God's healing for their familiy. I truly believe these men were anointed by God and even though they strayed I believe God will restore them to continue His work.
For each of us now we need to examine our relationships with our wives and our relationship with GOD. Has ego, work-a-holicism, greed, or selfishness creeped in. Are our spouses yearning for our attention.? Is God begging you to be real with Him again, transparent with Him again?
A couple other guys wrote about this topic and specifically Gary Lamb and their posts are awesome:
An open letter to pastorsThoughts on Pastor Gary LambHe got caught, you did notOne of my best pastor friends,
Dre Burgs, and I are going to start a Pastors Accountability Network. If you are interested in partaking or learning about what we will be doing...drop me a line on facebook or
Twitter. This network is open to male and female pastors (senior, youth, worship, community, etc). All pastors.
Continue being a blessing.